When Narcissists Grow Old: How to Survive the Caregiving Nightmare

Author: Weili RN

Why Your Aging Parent Makes You Feel Like a Bad Person?

Does your heart beat fast when the phone rings and you see it is 'Mom' or 'Dad'? Do you feel a heavy rock in your stomach because you know they are going to complain?

Even though they are getting older, they still know how to push your buttons. They know that if they act very sad or very angry, you will run to help them.

It feels like you are a servant, not a son or a daughter. You spend all your time trying to make them happy, but they stay grumpy. Then, you feel like you failed.

But you didn't fail. You are just a person with only two hands and one heart. You can't make a grumpy person happy if they want to stay grumpy.

It is okay to put the phone down. It is okay to say, 'I can’t help you right now.' You are not being mean. You are just taking care of yourself. You don't have to stay in the fire just to keep them warm.

Please share this with one person who feels stuck or sad because of their parents. Let’s help them feel a little bit lighter today.